anyone can make beautiful art with a beautiful model. but when the model is ugly, it takes true talent to make beautiful art.
Procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.
You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person. This makes failure or criticism disproportionately painful, which leads naturally to hesitancy when it comes to the prospect of doing anything that reflects their ability — which is pretty much everything…
Because it is rewarding on the short term, procrastination eventually takes on the form of an addiction to the temporary relief from these deep-rooted fears. Procrastinators get an extremely gratifying “hit” whenever they decide to let themselves off the hook for the rest of the day, only to wake up to a more tightly squeezed day with even less confidence.
Once a pattern of procrastination is established, it can be perpetuated for reasons other than the fear of failure. For example, if you know you have a track record of taking weeks to finally do something that might only take two hours if you weren’t averse to it, you begin to see every non-simple task as a potentially endless struggle. So a modest list of 10-12 medium-complexity to-do’s might represent to you an insurmountable amount of work, so it feels hopeless just to start one little part of one task. This hones a hair-trigger overwhelm response, and life gets really difficult really easily.
Gotta reblog this again cause it’s painfully relevant to my life
As a person who has learned to get past my procrastination impulse sometimes, but also still falls victim to it often enough, I found this very interesting.
soooo i can’t find anyone to watch the usa-canada men’s semifinal tomorrow because everyone does stuff at noon and that’s sad because i’m free and i’m gonna watch it alone but i wish i had someone to watch with because it would be more fun that way.
who would have expected a heat wave in february?
i don’t know how to not be a student.
Chiodos, Emarosa, Hands Like Houses, Our Last Night, and ‘68 are heading out on tour together this spring. Stream a new song called “Why The Munsters Matter” via AbsolutePunk here and check out the dates below after the jump.
Chiodos Announce New Album ‘DEVIL’
omg we just got tickets for the buffalo date i am so excited. also super stoked for the album!!!! :)
I am grade 12 student who has just recently graduated. You might call me accomplished, and in a way, I am, but not in the way you’d think. 12 years of pouring over text books and being lined up to be judged in front of my peers has not made me any more intelligent. I can tell you the first 45 digits of Pi and I can explain to you the difference between an acid and a base, I can recite the Pythagorean Theorem in my sleep, I will recite lines out of a textbook like they are a religion. But I cannot tell you the value of security, or of kindness. The distinct contrast between personal health and personal gain. I can tell you in grade 10 four of my classmates attempted to take their own lives before finals. I can tell you our counsellors office is always booked. I can tell you how when I didn’t understand something in AP Chemistry my teacher asked me to leave if I could not participate in his class. I merely asked him to explain a question. Instead of doing his job and teaching, he told me to leave. Told me I was not good enough to be there. Mistakes are viewed as failure in these hallways. A wrong answer is a sin you must atone to, not a human error, but a flaw so grand it defines your entire life course. There is no “average” here. We all must exceed expectations. Do your parents know that a grade that is considered average is a “C”? When I got a C in fourth grade my parents grounded me for a month. They said I was lazy and stupid and incompetent and that I’d better smarten up and stop fooling around. I never fooled around. I am driven by a deep need to impress others. I never fool around. I worked and worked and worked, with a deep hollow of anxiety in my chest. I have never been good at History, but I worked and worked and I attained at best a low B. It was not good enough. It is not said but we are expected to put our education before our personal health. It is not asked of us, but it is what we must do to achieve what we are asked to achieve. Our teachers will tell you, “Oh, I only give them one hour of homework each night.” Which is essentially true, each of my five teachers only gives me one to two hours of homework each night. Hmm, that adds up to 5-10 hours of homework, and overdue classwork, and projects. Say goodbye to sleep, say goodbye to feeling calm. I’ve developed a deep rooted anxiety disorder due to school and perfectionistic tendencies. Even when you get 100 percent on an assignment they still criticise you, it is never good enough. One slip, and you are in deep deep trouble. I can tell you that 90 percent of us try our hardest, and our teachers and parents stand in the sidelines, screaming, “You can do better than that!”
omg i have spent all day (several hours) working on this one problem for my computational linguistics homework. i had to write a program in Prolog (this dumb computer language) to calculate things if given an input in words. and it took forever but i finally finished and i’m so happy yay!!! :)
im praying for every gay and lesbain individual living in kansas. my heart goes out to all of you. and if you have no idea what i’m talking about, please read this.
"A new Kansas proposal would legalize discrimination against gay couples in the state, echoing one of the ugliest parts of American history." - source
This makes me fucking sick.
WHAT THE FUCK?!? i thought we were done with all of this bullshit. this is like going back to segregation. whatever happened to separation of church and state? how can a STATE GOVERNMENT decide that it’s okay to discriminate against people if it goes against someone’s religion? what if i make up a religion that hates heterosexuals? am i allowed to be an asshole to people because it “violates my religious principles”? this is complete bullshit. i thought america was supposed to be moving forward.